How to Get Back Your Love

1.Allow yourself and your love an appropriate amount of time before attempting to get them back. You need time to reflect, improve your self-esteem and confidence, and give yourself greater insight into why you want your ex back. You don't want to jump back into a relationship too soon, or you will most likely repeat the same mistakes.

2.Understand why you broke up with your partner in the first place, and do some self-reflection before deciding whether or not you should try to reunite.

3.Admit to yourself the faults that you have and the role you had to play in your breakup. Focus in on the problems that caused the deterioration of your relationship, and think about what you can do to mend them.

4.Communicate with your love effectively. Try to be rational, calm and clear about your intentions to get them back, while explaining how you plan to change. You should not be intimidated or hesitant to talk about your relationship problems.

5.Apologize to your love for the role you played in the relationship ending. Your love will be more willing to make things work with you if you are the first to apologize for the failure of your relationship, but do not apologize when you are not being genuine.

6.Try to get your ex to have a conversation with you about mending the relationship or understanding why it failed. Identify together what you feel were the major problems in the relationship and come up with plans, compromises or commitments to rectify them. If your ex does not want to talk to you, do not try to push them into it or they may feel defensive or uncomfortable and will not open up to you.

7.Construct an air of confidence so that your love will feel secure in your presence. If you appear confident, you will give your ex the impression that you are certain that you know what you want out of your relationships and your life. Your confidence will express that you are sure in your ability to change and be a better partner.

8.Have a positive attitude about getting back together, and don't dwell on the past. If you are willing to try to make the relationship work again, go back into it without resentment or anger. Believe that the relationship will work out and stay up beat about resolving problems in the future.

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